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Post by obf on Jan 17, 2018 9:30:32 GMT -8
Prayers and condolences to his family, friends and teammates, how sad. The Beavs and Cougs may be combatants on the field of play but this transcends sports, truly awful. You joke about Pullman contributing, but seasonal affective disorder is a real thing and just adds to the weight bearing down on someone who already may have clinical depression. I am sure it isn't the reason but it doesn't help. And of course when any football player commits suicide you have to wonder about CTE being involved at all...  |
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Post by beavadelic on Jan 17, 2018 14:00:44 GMT -8
Some people are really good at hiding depression..... I had a friend, while at CCC, who committed suicide. The day he did it we were joking and laughing, making plans for the weekend, chatting up girls, just another normal day. The phone rings at 11:30 and Dean's mom is on the phone..... I couldn't believe what she was telling me.... It took a long time for me to stop blaming myself. My only hope is that Tyler's teammates don't blame themselves and if they do they get some help gaining perspective. I’ve worked for 35 years in the mental health world and as part of a crisis response team in our district, and have been called in on a couple dozen suicides with kids from age 12-19. The crazy thing is that people who complete suicides often fool everyone because they can appear to be happy - even euphoric - right before their attempt. That apparent “upswing” may really be like a determination that they have a clear plan to end the pain, so they feel free, relieved. We all know someone who is struggling with depression, and when people suicide it’s normal to ask why and even to feel guilt for not doing something to prevent it. We have got to listen, and understand that the issue is bigger than bucking up and choosing to be happy, but it is not anyone’s fault. It’s the choice made by a person, and it’s tragic and awful, and the effects ripple far and wide. Sadly, Tyler apparently couldn’t see that there was hope, and there always is. To make it through the darkness and find the help needed to discover that hope takes perseverance and support, but it’s there. I really feel for Tyler’s family, teammates and coaches. For all of the dramatic examples of teams rallying in the face of tragedy, the reality is that this will rock the worlds of a lot of 18-22 year olds who shouldn’t have to deal with a loss of a brother during what should be among the most enjoyable, carefree years of their lives. I mourn with the Cougar family, Tyler’s family and for this young man, for whom life ended far too soon. |
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Post by lebaneaver on Jan 17, 2018 17:05:20 GMT -8
This stuff leaves me sad, and helpless. I can't imagine what the family is going thru. Can't imagine the pain. I do KNOW that we are pretty s%#tty about dealing with mental health issues in this country. Terrible, in fact. It scares us. Our priorities are so screwed up. Mental health should have no more stigma attached to it than physical health. But...it does. Why does it? I'm asking a serious question. Thanks
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Post by greshambeaver on Jan 18, 2018 22:40:38 GMT -8
Because we as a society look at it as a weakness. It's really an illness that needs attention, just like a cancer or a physical defect. We live in a world society that doesn't allow people to be honest and human about their emotions. I think it's getting better is some respects, but we have a long way to go.
Tell someone close to you that you love them every day.
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