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Post by ochobeavo on Mar 10, 2017 9:07:13 GMT -8
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Post by nabeav on Mar 14, 2017 12:53:34 GMT -8
Fascinating look into his relationship with his dad. Gotta be hard on those guys when they feel like they can't act like a "normal" father/son OR "coach/player." Basketball aside, I hope they're able to come out the other side of this time in their lives with a stronger relationship with each other an not resentment or feelings of regret that they didn't handle things differently. I noticed them sitting on opposite sides of Gill Coliseum during the 5A championship game - Wayne with his wife and Tres with Jaquori. Not that it means anything (I wasn't hanging out with my parents a whole lot during college either), but given the recency of the article it was something I thought about.
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2ndGenBeaver
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Post by 2ndGenBeaver on Mar 14, 2017 19:10:46 GMT -8
My father happened to be a college professor of Math at the same small school I got my undergrad Math and CS degrees at......as a result I ended up taking a lot of Math classes from my father. It was tough at times - getting busted (and re-seated) for chatting too much with my girlfriend in class, other kids speculating about the ethics of the situation when I aced a test, the cutting comments when I didn't, the tension between us when I lost my math scholarship for getting a less-than-stellar grade in one of his classes, etc. etc. I wished I could take classes from some other professor at times! It caused a lot of heated conversations between us (I had just turned 17 when I started college, and not the most mature 17 at that) for the four years I was at the school.
My father passed a couple years ago, and I am soooooo grateful we had those times together - the good and the bad. ALL the memories are fond ones now. I wish I could have taken all of my math classes from the man. I also have a lot more insight into how much he cared, how much he agonized over the performance of all the kids in his class. I can only hope that time will make Tres' and Wayne's relationship acquire a similar loving sheen. I am sure it will be a special thing for them in time.....
Go Beavs!
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Post by gzrbvr on Mar 14, 2017 20:35:20 GMT -8
Interesting article---Growing up is a hard road--Tres has had a few setbacks for sure, but no one is immune to setbacks--His injuries could be physical or they could be more or less random. Some of the best people I have known over the years have had more than their share of tragedy. And vice versa, some of the reprobates have "won the lottery" so to speak. There is a lot of randomness in the world and sometimes it is not always fair. Losing a close friend is a blow, but it is just a start. Consult an actuarial table for the odds. Good friends drop off the screen from time to time. It is not fun--but the good memories remain to console the living.
For Tres, there is one constant he probably will never really learn until he is a parent himself--Tink's love for him is total. The sooner he accepts the concept, the happier he will be. Think of it this way--I bet several of the other players have a lot worse row to hoe as far as fathers go. I bet there is at least one guy on the team who doesn't even know who his father is, there is probably one who's father was incapable of showing love and didn't even go to his games. WT is sharing his love with a lot of guys--the good thing is that sharing does not diminish the power of love--it only multiplies it. Ten years from now, these players will appreciate their coaches and their teammates a lot more. These will be the glory days of their life--a life lesser skilled mortals don't get to experience.
Playing as a coach's son can't be easy. But, it should be just like shirts and skins--you play for the team you are on and do your best. When you switch sides you do your best on that team. I can see Tres being just another player on the floor during practice and game and being just a good son the rest of the time. It is a load to switch gears, but also, most guys, when they are 18 and start college have far less contact with their Dad than Tres has. So, in a lot of ways, he is luckier than most guys.
So, Tres, buck up--enjoy yourself and your circumstance--many would give almost anything to have the chance you have to shoot high. There are no guarantees along the way--you are not always compensated fairly, that is just the way it is. But, your Dad loves you more than you know--that is the way it is.
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